Saturday, May 31, 2008

7 Ways For Developing Self-Esteem

Developing self-esteem is hard work and changes don't happen overnight. People with low self-esteem don't feel good about themselves, they are not happy with their life the way it is. But you can change and give a different direction to your life right now. You just have to decide to do that. Just think about your life for a moment.

How many times in your life have you had a thought that the "problem" you faced was impossible to solve, but you took care of it?

How many times did you think that there was no way to get that job and now you even have a better one?

How many times did you feel too shy to go to talk to that beautiful Lady on a party and now you have 2 gorgeous children and can't wait to attend their baseball game on the weekend with your wonderful wife who happened to be the same Lady?

We are all human beings with our frustrations, challenges and situations to take care of. Without those we would not call our existence LIFE. Developing healthy self-esteem is crucial to feel good about yourself.

What's important is that you have to accept and understand the reality which is to have ups and downs emotionally in life and by overcoming the obstacles will provide you with that amazing feeling that you have accomplished something. It does not matter what happens to you the point is your approach, your behavior toward the experience. You can look every single situation as an opportunity to prosper.

The point of life is not eliminating the challenges, but embracing them and to grow with them. In the following you can find 7 ways to develop your self-esteem and boost your confidence to live a happy, prosperous life:

1. MAKE DECISION TO BE SUCCESSFUL. If you don't take this step you can't go any further. If you don't want to change there is no way to change.

2. CREATE A PLAN. Set a goal what you would like to accomplish and go for it. Do something every day to get closer to your final achievement. It does not matter how small it is follow through your plan and do it. Be flexible though. There are times you have to accommodate your plan to the circumstances. But you have to do something every day to achieve success.

3. FOCUS. Every single fiber of your body and brain has to focus on the subject no matter what you do. Concentration is an indispensable part of high self-esteem.

4. PERSISTENCE. Many people can start something, but really few would finish it. So finish it. And never, ever give up.

5. SMILE probably has the strongest effect on people. Practice often.

6. POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS can "re-wire" your brain and get you back on track when you feel tired or lost.

7. POSITIVE THINKING. Put the idea into your mind that no matter what kind of situations you will face, what sort of obstacles will come up you can take care of them. You are a genius who will solve the problem and turn it into an amazing opportunity.

We all try new things and make mistakes. This is life, Ladies and Gentlemen. The more you fail the sharper your "mental tools" going to be next time to overcome similar challenges.

And remember when you make a mistake you don't fail; you just learn how not to do it.

By Zoltan Roth